The pressure on males to put their best foot forward on a first date is enormous, so he needs to nail it. However, how a guy does this is closely related to his self-perception.
On the other hand, if he isn't any of those things — if he's rude, obnoxious, smelly, arrogant, or aloof — you might want to plan a fast and early exit.
His profile photo is from college. I assume you were at your most attractive back then. You still looked fantastic even though it had been over a decade since your graduation. Don't stress about it; that's the norm.
He's late Betas are punctual. Man up. You set the date. Arrive when ready. She needs to know the boss right away.
You're not picked up at the door. Let's use an app. Demonstrate your phone's non-porn use. Text her and let her meet you.
After workout, he takes you up. Sweaty men smell good to women. As she opens the door, adjust your junk to let the guys breathe.
He doesn't have a plan for the date Women are tough. Let her choose everything, so she doesn't whine about things she doesn't like to do or eat.
He talks about himself — a lot She wants to know you, right? So tell her! Tell her about how much money you make, how your "other car" is in the shop, and about the awesome house you live in.
He insults his ex Make sure she knows that your ex was the worst and that you won't stand for any of that from here on out.
He's detached or unattainable Show her pictures of other women you've dated since then and show her your type. She needs to know you're a hot commodity.